Men and sexual desire?

[maharetr]

Right this moment, I'm listening to a radio program called Focus on the Family broadcast on SonShine FM (98.5). The program, as far as I can tell, is about sexual addiction. In a nutshell: men are hardwired by testosterone to want sex all the time (God made them this way!), and that therefore they cannot be expected to control that desire in such an eroticised society. The guy they're interviewing, the good Christian man who is helping all these guys fight sexual addiction says he has to look away in the cinema because he says he "cannot cope" with seeing a woman in a sexual context. And apparently, it's not God's fault for giving him all the testosterone, it's all culture's fault for being sexualised. They said that women live in a "haze and mist" of estrogene, and guys "live in a fog of testosterone", therefore women wouldn't get it.

How different are mens'/womens' sex drives, seriously? This is something I'm curious about. I first came across the idea (that someone genuinely believed that men got more horny than women) while talking to a Muslim guy (converted) who told me that women were emotional and were ruled by their emotions, men were rational and logical except when they got aroused where upon they immediately became... I don't think he actually used a word, but I'd take a stab at 'suddenly ruled by strong emotion'. Which was why it wasn't a choice for women to wear the hijab. Then again, this guy also thought it was perfectly rational for a woman to be stoned to death in Nigera because she had sex outside marriage.

I was going somewhere coherent with all this, but I'm in pain *and* curious, which is always a dangerous combination. Caution? To the wind! Any thoughts? studies? arousals? :D

Comments

[stormerider]

I've met both women and men with higher / lower sex drives than me and based on my own experience I'm inclined to believe that while men go into overdrive faster they have no monopoly on being obsessed with sex.

I consider mine to be high; that being said, I know of two women who have higher drives than my own.

I also know plenty of men who've said no to sex because it wasn't the right time / didn't feel right / wasn't enough.

Unfortunately, I've been in this position a lot of late...

[black-samvara.livejournal.com]

There is way too much variation in who chases who around the bedroom to start making claims about men having uncontrollable lusts - besides if it were genuinely the case all the countries who don't care would be pits of depravity and sin... oh wait!

Can I make jokes about you having at least assumed a position?